Expecting Another Baby

To many peoples surprise (including myself and Malik) in March of this year we discovered that we had been blessed with another gorgeous little baby. Unlike the beginning of my pregnancy with Casia, this time I had absolutely no signs of early pregnancy at all. Not even a little thought that “oh maybe I am”.

However on Monday 18th March 2019 I took a test and discovered that we were having another baby! I had such a mixture of emotions and honestly fear was one of them. Can I do this? Will I manage? Two babies under the age of two am I “crazy”? But the first things that came to me was Casia. She’s still so little. So dependent and honestly I felt a huge amount of guilt towards her that she wouldn’t get the “attention” that she’d need. As the time has gone by I have realised how incredible it is, that she will get all the attention and she will have a best friend to grow with and to experience all of life’s many adventures with and even more amazing she will have a sibling to tell all about it to. Almost all of my best memories from childhood involve my brothers and sisters and Casia will be so lucky to share hers with her sibling.

My family weren’t overly surprised that we were expecting another. Some members of the family even had a bet to see how many months I could go before we told them we were having another baby. I guess it was pretty obvious to them as well as to myself how much motherhood is my purpose in life. And that’s it. Motherhood is my purpose. Before having children to be quite frankly honest I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Everyday was the same not really knowing what I was working towards as I put on my “quick money making stop of a job” uniform on. Finding out I was pregnant changed everything, I woke up everyday determined and motivated with my life. After giving birth I realised that this, this is the thing I had been getting up everyday waiting to happen. Motherhood that is my job and that is my purpose.

I know that when our second baby is here everything will change again. The nights will get a little longer, the bags under my eyes will get a little darker and the love in my heart will get a whole lot bigger. But I couldn’t be more excited for this next chapter!

I don’t know who you’ll be or how you’ll act but I know with every single little piece of me that you will be loved endlessly, not only from me, your mother but also your daddy and your older sister.

How I’ve Changed Since Becoming A Mother

Being a mother is my most biggest and proudest achievement. Before having Casia I had a life that I didn’t really know what I wanted to do with it. Now, I wake everyday with a purpose. A reason to do better in life as it’s not just for me anymore for the rest of my life I’ll have a beautiful little girl looking up to me for advice and inspiration.

It’s not easy to go from looking after myself and thinking of just me to suddenly over night a little person needs my attention twenty four hours a day.

I’ve matured massively since being a mummy and even falling pregnant. I’ve made decisions that to some may have been hard to hear but I did it for a better life for myself and my daughter. Sometimes you have to be harsh and blunt as a mother because your child can’t talk or tell you what they want so you have to make decisions which you think benefit their life. This comes in every situation in life. Even when Casia is older I will still be there to support the decisions she makes as an adult and be by her side through everything in life.

So this is only a short one but it’s something that’s important. You will never know love until you meet your baby and realise that for the rest of your life you are their soul protector.

Getting Used To Life With A Baby

IMG_3805Casia is now eight weeks old and completely alert and smiling more than anything. The last two months have had more changes than I ever thought possible. Adjusting to life with a new born is hard and no one can ever prepare you for the sleepless nights and tears for no reason. But there is something so special about it just being the two of us in the middle of the night, lights dim and just her beautiful eyes looking up at me while I feed her.

The sleepless nights at times have been torturous, people always say that you’ll be tired when she’s here but I never really got how tired you’d be until now.  Sometimes I just want to curl up into a ball and sleep all day but that isn’t something that I can do anymore. Instead I get up three times a night, change nappies, make bottles, do feeds and constantly clean up sick but you know what, I’m completely okay with that! Her little smile and the way she looks at me makes it all better. IMG_4434Relationships change when your baby is here and I can defiantly agree with that. You have so much less time for just you and your partner, to even just talk on the sofa or cuddle up and watch a film. You can start to do it and hear a little cry or a nappy needs changing. But the time that you do get to spend as just the two of you, I think you treasure it so much more than you used to. Even if it’s getting to eat your dinner without a baby on your lap and having a conversation with an adult in “adult voice” rather than talking all day in “baby talk”.

There are so many new things that you get to experience on a day to day basis and its beautiful. Every little smile and every little walk just the two of you is lovely. It’s hard when your partner goes back to work and you single handily have to do everything. I think it’s so important to get out of the house everyday because I for one know it can get lonely just sitting inside all day with a sleeping baby. I love to go for a walk around the park and grab a hot chocolate. I try and see my friends and family as much as possible. But then again I absolutely love a lazy snuggly day on the sofa in our pj’s and day time TV.IMG_4059Life with Casia is amazing and so is motherhood and I can’t wait to watch you learn and grow even more!

 

Labour and Delivery Story

2I’m so overly excited to finally be able to write this! On Monday 13th August at 01:42am me and Malik welcomed our gorgeous little girl into the world two weeks early. The last nine months of pregnancy have been a mixture of emotions. It’s been hard at times but it’s also been the most amazing journey and growing our little girl has been the greatest gift of all!

The last couple weeks of my pregnancy were emotionally and physically challenging. I’d been experiencing intense Braxton Hicks and had so many close false alarms. Throughout my entire pregnancy I was having regular growth scans also as she was measuring smaller than she should have been. At thirty six weeks I had a scan and she was measuring a lot smaller than she should have. I was sent to triage where I was awaiting a doctors opinion on what should happen. As I wasn’t “full term” yet they decided to not induce me at that point but instead book another growth scan for thirty eight weeks to see if she had grown anymore. So I waited patiently until then. (Well I tried)

On Sunday August 12th I woke up with really intense Braxton Hicks, more than I had ever felt before and period pain sort of cramps. I called my midwife for advice and she said it would be good to get things checked over. I’d been to the hospital so many times before that I could do it with my eyes closed so I didn’t rush there. I got ready had something to eat and headed off.

We arrived at the hospital at around 13:00pm. Once we got there, I was taken to a side room where I was put on the monitor and had the usual checks. The midwives said they were going to get the doctor on shift to come and see me, which she did. I was meant to be having my growth scan on the coming Tuesday so the doctor just moved it forward. When I had the scan they saw that she hadn’t grown in the last two weeks so they were going to induce me. Once I was back on the ward the doctor decided to do a stretch and sweep (which isn’t as bad as everyone makes it out to be) Luckily I was already two cm so I only needed the six hour pessary to induce me to hopefully bring my labour on and for my waters to break naturally.

Me and Malik decided to go for a walk and call our families to let them know what was happening. Everyone was so excited and couldn’t quite believe that our little girl would soon be here. We seemed to walk around the hospital for hours until we went back up to the ward.

Once we were back upstairs at around 19:00pm my midwife induced me by putting the pessary in and put me back on the monitor. At this point it was all becoming so real and the nerves that in the space of twenty four hours I was going to become a mum. Malik quickly went home to shower and get a few things for himself as we both weren’t really prepared that we were having a baby today. He left to go home at around 20:30pm and was gone for only an hour. In that space I was getting agonising contractions whilst being on my own in the ward room. I was beginning to cry as it was extremely painful. I was trying everything I had learnt in my yoga and hypnobirthing to get me through the first stages of labour. I went on the birthing ball and was bouncing in between contractions. Luckily at 21:30 Malik came back and was comforting me with the pain.

1Everything moved pretty quickly then and before I knew it I was getting moved up to delivery suite and my mum was on her way. I tried my best to walk to delivery suite but I had to stop a couple of times to breath out my contractions that were getting more intense. Once we got to the room in which I was going to deliver, I set up my speaker and put on my music. Although Mal decided to change it to the greatest showman sound track on after only being in the room for ten minutes.

Once we were there my midwife got me some oils to smell to help relax and calm me, and stuck them onto my top. I sat on the birthing ball and Malik massaged the same oils into the bottom of my back. This part of my labour I can’t remember to be very painful, just relaxing and everyone laughing and joking with each other.

At around 12:30am, my midwife asked if she could examine me to see how many cm I now was, as I was only three cm my midwife said she was going to break my water to speed up my labour. I was pretty nervous about this but knew it had to be done. She offered me gas and air but I said no and just squeezed Malik’s hand instead.

It was the strangest feeling when they broke. I always imagined it to be like the films and huge dramatic gush like they all get in the middle of the shops, but instead I just felt like I’d spilt a hot drink all over my lap.

Things happened so fast after this and most of it became a blur. All I really remember is having my contractions go from the pain scale of a three to a ten in the space of about ten minutes. At around 1:30am I instinctually got up onto all fours and screamed that I needed to push. At this point I began pushing and had no idea how I knew what I was doing it’s like my body was made for it and I knew what I had to do to get my baby here safely. I began pushing and Malik and my mum said that they could see her head.

My midwife was telling my to do little pushes when having contractions. My mum and Malik were holding my hands and another midwife was filming it for me so that I had the memory forever.

Within twelve minutes and 4 pushes we welcomed our little girl into the world at 1:42am on Monday 13th August 2018. 3It was the most incredible thing I have ever done and I have never in my whole entire life felt love like this before! She is perfect in every single way and I couldn’t be more proud to call her my daughter.

This is only the beginning of our journey together, and I couldn’t be more excited to watch you grow and teach you everything that she will ever need in life!

Casia Mary
01:42am
5lbs 15oz

A huge thank you is needed for everyone that helped me throughout my entire pregnancy, labour and birth. Gloucestershire Royal Hospital were absolutely amazing and I couldn’t thank everyone enough!

Six Week Countdown

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I am finally in my thirty-forth week of pregnancy with under six weeks to go. Even the thought of being able to say I’m full term in under three weeks is crazy.  Saying that is giving me so much excitement to say the least. The fact that I’ve already been pregnant for 240 days is quite surreal to me. Although to some it feels like these eight months have flown by but to me it couldn’t be going any slower! I am so ready for her to be here now and I’m getting very impatient and this heat wave that we are currently having in the UK really isn’t helping. I feel I’ve been a grumpy hormonal mess these last couple of weeks. I really do have to give credit to my boyfriend Malik for putting up with my constant mood swings and twitching in the middle of the night.

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These last couple of weeks have definitely been the most challenging for me. My back pain is starting to become painful which is making even the smallest of tasks a bigger challenge than it needs to be. I’ve still been suffering with pelvic pain which has been something that I’ve had since quite early on in my pregnancy but I’ve now started pregnancy yoga at my local hospital which has been helping massively with easing the pain. It’s also nice to meet other expecting mothers around the same age and similar situations to me.

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Sleeping through the night is a distant memory and that’s okay. At least my body is in some ways getting used to running on little to no sleep. After all I’m sure I won’t get much sleep when she is here anyway.

Me and Malik are trying to spend some time together as the two of us before two becomes three. Nothing over the top but just little things like watching a tv programme and just chatting. It’s nice to still remember that it’s the two of us too. I think once people have a baby they can forget about the fact that your partner is still important too, so it’s good to spend time the two of us for a little while longer.

I had my 34 week growth scan this week which isn’t something everyone has in pregnancy but its nice to see her little face before she arrives. She’s growing perfectly and currently weights 4lbs 5oz and growing in the right direction. My midwife has scheduled another growth scan at 37 week and if all is still good with her growth which they don’t really have much concern about at the moment I have been given the all clear to hopefully deliver on the Birth Unit. Which is something that I would love but I’m not going to get my hopes up one any set birth plan, as long as we are both healthy and well and she arrives It really doesn’t matter to me how she gets here.

I have so much to look forward to over the next six weeks. I have now officially started my maternity leave so I’m able to relax and enjoy these last few weeks of pregnancy. I also have my baby shower next week which is something that I’ve been excited about since my sisters sent me my invitation. And obviously the fact that my daughter is due in 5 and a half weeks.

I’m loving every part of this journey and I really can not wait to be a mum!

Good-Bye Second Trimester

Goodbye Second Trimester

I’m less than a week away from entering my third and final trimester, and I’ve never felt three days go by so slowly in my life. It’s pretty surreal to me that I’ve done almost twenty-eight weeks out of forty of my pregnancy already. It’s been such an incredible journey so far and this really is only the beginning. It’s been difficult. There has been lots of tears, but there has also been lots of laughs. So many milestones have been met this trimester. We found out the sex of our gorgeous little girl at sixteen weeks, I cried so many happy tears that day. We had the most incredible experience at Early Life Ultrasound Clinic in my local town with a 3D scan, seeing her face properly for the first time was something that still makes me emotional now. Since then we have had another 3D scan at twenty-four weeks and the change and growth rate is amazing to see.

I felt my baby kick for the first time, and my goodness was it the most amazing feeling! It’s been so nice for my boyfriend Malik to be able to feel and see her kicking this trimester too. I think it’s made it so much more real for him now. Obviously with the two of us both still being young, this pregnancy isn’t something that we had planned this year and it’s okay to say that. But it is something that now it’s happening to the both of us, we couldn’t really see our lives going in any other direction. Malik often will sit with his hand on my tummy to feel her kicking and those really are the moments that I treasure. One day when she’s old enough to understand I’ll tell her all the funny moments of when she would kick her dad when he was singing to her. Maybe it’s her way of telling him that he really shouldn’t quit his day job!

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I overcame the hideous sickness that was leaving me bedridden for weeks and finally regained my appetite so that my taste buds came back into action. Along with that, my cravings have come into full swing. Ice. Oh how much I love you at the moment. I’ll sit and eat bowls at a time. Four AM ice crunching is becoming a daily occurrence. The thought of it makes my mouth water the way others water when they hear about steak or something like that.

My growing baby has been making me extremely tired and my back is really beginning to hurt. So I’m spending an awful lot of time in the bath and with Malik massaging the bottom of it. That brings me onto another thing, I’ve had a lot more scans in my pregnancy than the average pregnant women. I’ve also had two extra growth scans scheduled for twenty seven and thirty four weeks as my midwife was concerned she was a little on the smaller side. But, after having a scan it seems to be all okay at the moment and she weighs a healthy 2.7lbs and is growing in the right direction. I’m still slowly learning to accept my changing body but I’m no longer hiding away in baggy tops and leggings, I’ll show her off to the world now. After all, she’s the pinnacle of my life. It took some time for my bump to actually make an appearance but she’s defiantly showing herself now!

I have so much to look forward to in this trimester. My daughter will be welcomed into the world and life of being a mummy will be well and truly underway. See you in twelve weeks my flower I can’t wait for our life and memories to start!